Jane* dreams of the day she can be with her son for his birthday. Every day in recovery after completing The Buttery’s Core program, she is a step closer to her dream.
The first time Jane missed her son’s birthday was when she was living in The Buttery’s Therapeutic Community. The second time she missed his birthday, she had relapsed. However, that has not stopped her getting back on her path to recovery.
“Being sober and having a relationship with my son again is what I live for,” she said.
“Seven years ago, I had a lot of good things in my life. I had a good job and home life,” she said.
But in the three years before her stay at The Buttery’s Therapeutic Community in 2015, Jane’s life spiralled out of control. “I was drinking to the point I could no longer be functional. I became a morning drinker. I lost my job which meant so much to me,” she said.
“Before The Buttery, I did short-term private rehabs, they were just 21 days, but I continued to relapse.
“Unfortunately, 15 months into my recovery after The Buttery I busted. I was in a state of self-sabotage,” she said.
Rather than going back to The Buttery’s Residential program, Jane opted to complete The Buttery’s community outreach program, CORE. A six-week program, which she attended in Byron Bay, which runs during school hours.
“At the start, I felt I had nothing to stay sober for if I didn’t have my son. But the CORE program was excellent. It went very deep. It brought to the surface the stuff I didn’t want to explore.
“The staff, especially (Program Manager) Tanya (Magnay), brought so much compassion. There was also so much love and compassion from the group. We shared all the shameful things we had done. We saw were more similarities than differences.
“CORE was great because it focuses on addiction. It was challenging. It was exhausting, but the staff went the extra mile for us.
“I think my story — having my child taken away — helped others. I told them I didn’t want what happened to me to happen to them.
“I hope to spend more time with my son. Last week I gave him his birthday present in person. I’m not going to push it. But I have everything to work for.”
*Name changed and stock image used.